Correct, now that I pay attention to it.The list adds a noticeable delay to delivery, so the direct copy will almost always beat out the list copy.
Some list software [*] can be configured to suppress the list copy if your address is in To or Cc, but ours (Sympa) doesn't seem to have that feature. Finally, you could beg everyone to reply to ONLY the list and NOT to you and hope no one ever forgets. Maybe mention it in your signature or something.
It's no issue for me really. I don't do anything as complex as you seem to, I know what threading is but I don't use it, my email life is as simple as it could be. My only concern is not to disrupt anything via 'Subject' or anything else. Bart says he changed something. Meanwhile I got two copies of your post as usual. I'm cool.